About black and white thinking
Would love you to talk more about black and white thinking, how to manage the automatic thought pattern of black and white thinking For example, In early dating, when the guy and I won’t talk for a while, and even though I have no reason to come to this conclusion, I automatically believe we won’t speak ever again And find it really difficult to explain myself otherwise I don’t act from these thoughts, but would like to know how can I hold other options and thoughts and not run to these conclusions? Thank you so much!
how to feel less guilty about my fears and triggers in early dating?
Hi beautiful Sabrina and Ryan I’m listening to the podcast from the very beginning and appreciate your honesty and vulnerability so much. Thank you a million times! I would love to hear your thoughts on how to feel less guilty about still having my fear of abandonment, about the fact that even though I’m in therapy for 5 years, well aware of my triggers and take full responsibility on my anxiety, try my best to not act from a place of fear, I feel deeply ashamed for my ongoing experience where a guy I barely know, has a big impact on my mood and well being. It’s like my body does not accept what I understand intellectually. My body react intensely to every sign of abandonment, even when I know it doesn’t matter if the person leaves, we don’t know each other. when I meet a guy who is consistent, stable, not hot and cold, is truly trying to get to know me, I feel like I’m hiding something from him, since I put so much effort on calming myself to not show my anxiety and not communicate from a place of fear. I am not a victim, just feeling stuck Thank you for every thought, not looking for a specific answer ❤️
Starting your business
Hi Sabrina! Can you talk a little bit about how you started your business and how you were able to build such an amazing thriving podcast/coaching/program within 1 year on top of a software and clothing company? That's just so cool and wanted to learn more about how you got started and how you were able to do it and to learn more about your journey. I've also heard about people creating mood boards for themselves for inspiration. Is that something that you do? If so, can we learn more about that? ex: tools you use for that, how to get started, etc As always, I appreciate you so much and I love that we get to be in your coaching container! :)
Emotionally immature/self-absorbed Parents.
Firstly, I want to express my deep admiration for you and your podcast. Over the past year, your tough love has been incredibly valuable to me. While your focus is primarily on dating, it's clear how your childhood experiences shape your insights. You've shared episodes about your father and the challenges in your relationship, and it sounds like you've managed to maintain some form of connection with him. My situation with my parents is different. My parents divorced when I was 10. My mom tends to be anxious and often prioritizes pleasing others, while my dad is avoidant and quite self-centered. I don't think he's a narcissist, but there are certainly traits there. After their divorce, I felt neglected and bounced between their homes, craving attention and affection, acting out frequently just to be seen. My dad often spoke negatively about my mom, alienated me from her, and treated me as his emotional confidant while expecting me to maintain the household. Things escalated when he remarried and his new wife, who is now my stepmom, entered the picture. She quickly became controlling, cruel, and tried to exclude me and my brother from her family. Despite years of trying to mend things, I finally confronted her in 2020, expressing my desire for meaningful connections. My dad sided with her, dismissing my feelings and accusing me of being disrespectful and manipulative. It's been four years since then, with no effort from my dad to reconcile or see my child. Now, he's been diagnosed with stage 2/3 multiple myeloma and wants to reconnect, especially to watch my son grow. However, he hasn't acknowledged his past behavior or defended me against my stepmom. They've also decided that only my half-sister will inherit, disregarding my brother and me because we're adults. I've tried to communicate how hurtful this is, emphasizing that my pain stems from feeling abandoned for so long. Despite countless apologies, while also showing compassion and grace pertaining to behaviors from my side, they refuse to acknowledge their role and want to brush everything under the rug, painting me as unreasonable. I want a relationship with my dad and sister, but I'm struggling to establish boundaries and protect myself. I'm currently undergoing EMDR therapy, but the pain remains overwhelming. How do you maintain relationships with parents who have hurt you so deeply without ruining your own peace?
How Do You Know?
First of all, THANK YOU! This podcast, the course, and our 1:1 session has helped me immensely! I’m actually excited for the dating adventure and what the future holds. Question though - I’m doing all this work on myself but how do I know when it’s time to “get back out there.” Just ended it with my 6 month situationship… I want to make sure I am ready for the right reasons & not just using dating as a distraction.